Yes? And what about it?
What I learned from dying my hair red
26th October, 2019
26th October, 2019
To change your life, sometimes you’ve got to change the way you look.
I wasn’t exactly running away from anything when I decided to change my appearance, I was rather, running towards something - something new. Someone new.
A little backstory to help you understand why it was such a big deal that I was modifying my appearance.
I spent the best parts of my teenage years and the earliest parts of my adulthood in a system that absolutely forbids you to express yourself in any way.
A system that tells you how to dress, how to comport yourself, the kind of social life to lead and even how to think.
I spent a total of eight years in one of the strictest medical schools in the country and you learn a few things from being surrounded by harsh laws and their enforcers.
Leaving that system this year, I decided I wasn’t going to live by their rules anymore, and while you might be tempted to say, “duh”, remember that ‘conditioning’ is a thing.
It takes more than a shrug-off to rid yourself of a life you’ve known for so long. A lot of us suffer.
I decided I was going to loosen its hold over me. First, I went from two ear piercings total, to five.
Then my hair went honey blonde and now red.
I didn’t do it to rebel. I did it because it’s what I’ve always wanted. I finally took back my freedom to choose almost a year after leaving the environment that repressed me and so many others.
Now, what did dying my hair teach me?
I learnt that people will project their fears onto you. Those who have always secretly wanted to have the courage to change something about their appearance look at me with admiration and jealousy.
“But is this acceptable?”
Very often I’ve had to deal with that question and my answer always is “I’m wearing it, I accept it. There’s absolutely no one else I need to worry about”
The truth is, I own it so much, people think twice about calling me out on it. (Of course these people are those in my professional circle who still believe coloring my hair makes Hippocrates turn in his grave)
The second thing I learned?
Those that matter don’t mind.
I have received nothing but support from those closest to me who think I look fantastic, and know what a huge step it is to breakaway from the shackles of the cult that bind.
Absolutely love to see it.
RELATED: Other Posts From Kitana